Hi XAM gang, I want to take out this time to say thank you for giving my last post amazing love, having a whopping 5,000 views in less than two days was surreal and sure gives me the right amount of wit to keep writing. So, hope you guys are doing well??, Well a little bit about my day, performed a Grammy award winning song in the bathroom and if you have heard me sing then you know my neighbors were greatly disturbed (lol, but hey I paid for rent) and aside that 2019 is looking really great with a lot of prospects and I hope the mood keeps it self. Well aside from the fact that my neighbor’s cat had an abortion and their dog got divorced it’s all good in here (lol)…
So, I would be talking about a topic that gets a lot of attention on social media and most times from the wrong perspective and angel (well my own angel) its… (drum roll) Feminism in homes, do you feel Feminism should be a talk to have in the context of a family??
I am of the opinion that this topic should be an issue at work place and not really in a home setting because when this topic hits the day of light especially on twitter, I get to see comments like “why should I cook and work and the man’s just watching T.V) OR “I can’t marry a feminist” okay slow down. Let’s define some certain terms for easier understanding of the whole concepts. According to Dictionary.com it defines Feminism as “the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.
2.(sometimes initial capital letter) an organized movement for the attainment of such rights for women.
And they went on to define Feminist as ‘advocating social, political, legal, and economic rights for women equal to those of men, an advocate of such rights.
With this in view, I strongly believe that Feminism shouldn’t be a discussion for homes because when you marry someone you love, who washes the dishes, takes kids to school or makes dinner won’t feel like such a big job or deal. All hands would be on deck to make the family work and there is this stuff called ‘discussion’, if you properly have a conversation about how you would ‘run the home’ the issue of feminism would slowly take care of itself and with this you also reduce the risk of telling your wife, whom you married as a banker and has been telling you she would love to become a Bank manager someday to suddenly stay at home and take care of the kids because “that’s what your mother did” or because you are a feminist you suddenly tend to forget to care and nurture for your family because ‘After all we are all working and need some rest’.
The whole idea of feminism isn’t a 21st century problem, we are making it look like it is, most families actually have helps because both parents are working and usually come back late most times, I’m of the opinion that men shouldn’t marry someone who plan to go “the career way” and later decide to preach ‘someone’ should stay back at home and women who think everything about Feminism and being a feminist is to dodge nurturing and taking care of their husband as irresponsible women who would hide under any devise just to show how incapable they are and if you are working and your job does not make more money to get you a nanny and some time to stay with your children then I best believe its time to put in your resignation letter because its of no good use.
Have that discussion with your partner and also talk about everything and anything and not only about ‘what style do you like on bed’ but about trivial things like ‘when do you like to get off from a party’, ‘Do you wash you own dish’, ‘Can you cook??’ Sadly most men would love to help you out in the kitchen but they don’t know what to do, encourage them that by staying with you while you cut the veggies that they’re doing more than enough (that’s if you enjoy having your man in the kitchen, cos I know most women who don’t like having people in their kitchen) and by so doing Feminism and being a feminist in home setting would slowly take care of itself.
Tell me what you feel about Feminism been discussed in homes against love and mutual respect in the comment session.
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